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Undoubtedly, many of us aspire to change themselves to the best version, the version they dream of and aspire to. But most people do not understand how things work. They just wish and dream without hard work and without any significant sacrifices. This is how they want to change without paying the price. In this article, I will tell you what the necessary sacrifices are, and I did not waste my article in human development narratives.
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How to start the spark of change
Whether the decision to change yourself came from a difficult moment you went through, and revealed to you how weak you are. Or it was a logical decision you made after consulting your mind, but often those who want to change themselves are the good people who are easy to exploit and manipulate. The spark is formed after a painful slap they are exposed to, this spark generates great pain for them, so they become brave and start looking for a better version of themselves. They, the good people, if they change, they will be exceptional.
You have to take advantage of the spark because it hurts and you, my kind-hearted one, will not change except through pain. This is the truth.
Who is responsible?
Who is responsible for the situation you are in? What led you to this weak personality? Be realistic and honest with yourself. You must accurately determine who is responsible. I strongly believe that you are the one who caused this to yourself through several factors that you do not pay attention to. You are lenient with your mistakes and think that they are not big, but they are very big. You must review yourself and sit with yourself. Tell yourself that you have to change no matter the cost. Do not be weak with yourself. You must set limits for yourself and no matter what happens, do not exceed these limits because they determine who you are.
Review your past
The past, although it is gone and no longer exists except in our memories, is the black box of your life and contains many secrets and hidden things. You have to analyze this black box, solve puzzles and diagnose mistakes. Do you still not notice anything? The mistakes of the past are always repeated, but with the difference in people and places, these problems must be solved. If you can decipher the past, the present will be easy for you and you will be creative in building the future.
Be brave and dive into your past and extract lessons and morals without everything. After this diving trip, I want you to come out stronger and braver with a plan
Pay the bill for changing yourself
This world is materialistic, in order to get something you have to pay, yes it is the most expensive bill in your life because you will pay it from your heart. It is the most miserable bill because it makes you struggle and suffer. What is this bill? And how do you pay it?
Is there anyone who thinks he can change without paying the bill? This is not possible. You must make the necessary sacrifices, but you have two paths, either stay in the environment that broke you and pay the bill or leave it. This decision is yours to determine according to the data and events of your life. Now here is a list of the supposed sacrifices.
- Don't run away at first: Constantly running away is not a solution. You are here reinforcing the principle of weakness and teaching your mind to be cowardly. You have to confront and push yourself to learn. So you have to sacrifice your comfort by running away to become stronger.
- Reciprocity: You have to treat people the way they treat you without shame or fear. This is very important because you will see how kind and tolerant you are. I am sure that if you treat them the same, they will leave. Do not be afraid. Let them leave. Sacrifice them for yourself.
- Sacrifice of pleasures: Sacrifice the pleasures that give you an illusory sense of comfort. They only make matters worse and make it difficult to change you.
- Leave daydreams: I know that you find great comfort when you sit with yourself or listen to music and start imagining. This is a negative thing that you should leave as much as possible.
- Let things get out of control: Do not always try to control things. Let them collapse and see what happens. I think that you refrain from doing the right thing that makes you stronger because you think that the reactions will be strong.
- Move from defense to offense: Don't wait to be asked a question. Ask people and let them answer. Don't justify to them, let them justify to you. Be the questioner, not the one responsible.
Changing behavior goes hand in hand with changing thoughts.
Don't be contradictory with yourself when changing your thoughts you must also change your behavior and vice versa, these two factors are in constant sync, one supports the other.
Real change comes from correcting the beliefs that brought you to this state, the world has laws, it doesn't matter if these laws are correct, what matters is that it operates according to these laws. I don't care about your intentions if they are not in harmony with the laws of this world.
So after you know the laws that your world operates by, correct your thoughts in light of new discoveries, then fight your behaviors that have become a habit that is in effect without your intervention, this requires persistence from you.
In conclusion
Every person is different from the other in terms of intellectual and mental aspects, and this difference is a fundamental reason for making decisions and facing life.
Do not think for a moment that changing yourself is easy, on the contrary, it is difficult and the fun lies in the fact that it is difficult and when you make the decision to change yourself, you will notice many mistakes that you were making without knowing.
It is a journey that you must take today before tomorrow in order to make yourself an influential and stronger personality, do not hesitate and make the decision immediately.
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Be well and see you later, with you was the writer Asmar Yas.
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